I’m a Mother Not a Mom & That’s Okay

These are my definitions of Mother & Mom.

Mother – Noun, A person who has given birth to, is raising, or has adopted a child.

Mom – Noun, A person who has dedicated their life to their children. This person is nurturing & caring. She makes salads in mason jars & actually completes all the things she pins on pinterest. (Also see; Perfect Parent, DIYer, Healthy, Organic, NonGMO, etc)

I am a mother. I have never been a mom. I, like many other women, was not born with the genetic disposition to be a mother. You can call me selfish or callus but I am just being real here. I love my children & they are well taken care of, but I am just not a mother.
I do not do mornings. I have little patience. I cringe when I touch sticky things(& my children are #ForeverSticky). I like long naps & periods of silence. I only craft if the mood strikes me & the moon is in a particular cycle. I do not cook 3 meals a day. I’ll cook one(2 on a great day). My children eat processed food that comes in cans or can be stored in my freezer. Yesterday they had, I kid you not, Vienna Sausages, crackers, & a Little Debbie brownie for lunch. They were happy & full. Oh, & we ate pizza for dinner. I listen to music with explicit lyrics(& my kids dance along). I watch anime, Dr. Who, Supernatural, & Pretty Little Liars with my children(& yes my daughter can sing the PLL theme song). I go out with my husband regularly, & my kids stay with a family member. My 4 year old can see my bottle of rum on top of the fridge & she calls it “bat beer”. I have pink hair, tattoos, & I swear as if my life depended on it. That’s just me, but guess what?

IT’S OKAY!

My parenting style is pretty free range, but my children are happy, healthy, & well adjusted. They view the world with wonder and awe just like any other child. They love me & I love them. We snuggle up every day & watch a few episodes of Digimon while painting each others nails & snacking on chips. We talk about everything. My children are hilarious. Talking to my 4 year old is like talking to a tiny little 16 year old(chock full of useless information & attitude fueled by an extensive vocabulary). I am not going to win any parenting awards, & I don’t want to. This world is crazy. It’s full of people who are different, foods that are bad for you, cursing, & general weirdness. My children are preparing to be a part of that world. I will not shelter them from reality. I will protect them from harm. I won’t let them watch horror movies before bedtime. I will teach them to love people, to embrace new ideas, & to accept other peoples choices. I will urge them to choose their own path & travel down it with wild abandon.

If you are a “mom”, I salute you! I am proud of you, but I do not want to be you. I am right where I want to be; sitting on my bed, drinking an energy drink, working, while my girls play dolls in the next room. I am a “mother”, & that is totally okay.

Leave me a comment & tell me how you feel.

Why So Serious?

Okay, so today my inner nerd is hurting a little bit, & here’s why.
PokemonGo released this past week & my newsfeed is flooded with posts about it. I downloaded it on day one & have played daily since then. It’s fun, & as a girl who was obsessed with Pokemon back in the day, I am lost in a sense of childish nostalgia. With all the hatred, political mess, & general insanity in the world right now, I welcomed this new community of nerds as a safe place where people from all walks of life are coming together. People of all ages, gender, races, political parties, & sexual orientation are chatting, sharing tips, creating fun content, & GETTING ALONG! Our nation is in turmoil & for a brief moment we all found a common ground. We found something fun, something playful, something nostalgic, something happy! This world needs more happy.
So to all the people complaining that PokemonGo is pointless, stupid, “nerdy”(in a negative connotation), or just for jobless basement dwellers… I say this…
Why so serious?
Why can’t you leave it alone? Why do you have to post constantly about how Pokemon is taking over your newsfeed & how these nerds need to get a job or a real life. Do you know how bad this makes you look? In a world filled with hate, you just spew out more, & towards a group of people who more than likely have been a victim of your nasty mean girl brand of hatred before. You sat at the special table in high school & passed down judgement on anyone who was different. High school is over. The nerd still like their nerd stuff, & you still hate them for it. You are still a bully, so stop it. You are not better than them because you don’t play a video game. We are no better than you because we do. We are all people just looking for one happy moment in this cruel world. Leave it alone. If you need something to be angry about, look around. Racism, sexism, gender inequality, the presidential race are all worth being angry over. A video is not. People all over the place are finding happiness, so kindly redirect yourself to something that matters. We don’t need your approval, but we also don’t need your attitude.

Who am I?

Who am I?

I am a 26 year old mother, business owner, beauty lover, netflix addict, who likes to do amazon reviews & go to drag races in her free time. I drink way more coke than should be technically legal. I a complete nerd. #SuperWhoLockian4eva haha. I change my hair color twice a month sometimes. I love finding new makeup & skin care stuff to try. I live on a tight budget. I never met a problem I didn’t want to solve. I have suffered from depression & anxiety my entire life. I believe that all women deserve to feel pretty. I cuss, I drink, & I am a sucker for a good party. I am still a KICKASS parent & human being in general.
I want to have this blog be a reflection of all that. I want you to come here for content, but stay for the personality. haha. As I build this community I invite you to follow along & see what happens.
I’ve committed myself to at least one post a week for the rest of the year. I am excited to see where all this goes.
So now I’ll ask a favor of you, comment below a blog topic you’d be interested in reading about? Give me an idea, & I will run with it. I’ll make sure to feature you if I choose your idea.

 

 

 

 

 

 

How will I make it?

Have you ever asked yourself that question? Maybe you were struggling with a major life change, or maybe you were just trying to get through one more load of laundry. Personally I feel like I ask this question at least once a day.
There is a certain level of fear in my mind every time this thought pops up. A real true primal human fear. How will I make it? How will I survive? Then I remember…
I have survived all of my worst days so far. 
I am still here. I made it this far. I made it past all the bad decisions, all the hard choices, all the stress inducing moments. I came out on the other side of all those things. Was it easy? No. Was it worth it? I think so. The value of all that crap serves as a reminder that, yes, I will make it. These tough moments, these trials; however menial or mundane are only temporary. I have survived thus far. I will continue to survive.

5 Masks for Every Skintype

Okay, so personally I have been plagued with insane skin my entire life. Oily one month, then dry, followed by a storm of blackheads. Seriously my skin may be bipolar; I’m just saying. When I found the Perfectly Posh product line, I decided to give it a try. Why not? I had tried everything else, so what did I have to lose. Well I fell in love instantly. (I even ended up deciding to become a rep for the company!) It changed my skin. There are masks for everything & I could switch up easily depending on how my wacko skin was feeling at the time without switching up my entire skincare routine. I still use the same cleanser & moisturizer every day. It’s so easy. So I decided to share 5 of my favorite masks with you, & maybe you can find something to put some ease into your skin care battles.

1. In The Clear
This mask sends acne screaming for the hills. Peppermint and lemon oils combine with white tea leaf extract and kaolin clay to get deep into your pores & flush out the yuck. It smells so good, leaves a cool tingle, & is always an instant pick me up. I turn to this bad boy every time I have a break out or my blackheads show their ugly face.

2. Stay Gold
My poor face went through a dry spell recently & this little tub of heaven was a life saver. I personally think it smells a little odd but not in a bad way lol. It has honey & tumeric and relieves redness & dryness. It really is super hydrating, but my favorite thing it does is help correct my patchiness (which drives me nuts every time my skin get the least bit dry).

3. Cackle Spackle
OMG! I cannot say enough good things about this mask. I smells & feels like 5 Gum tastes. Seriously, this mask is all about detoxing. It has charcoal, spearmint, volcanic ash, & kaolin clay. My husband even approves of this one. I use this mask every Sunday to help detox my face after a long week of makeup, dirt, & daily yuckiness. It draws out all the impurities, cleanses, & tones. I just follow up with a little moisturizer & BOOM my skin is rocking & ready for the week ahead.

4. Apricots Overnight
This sweet thing is my go to after a day in the sun. It’s all about moisture. I spend alot of time outdoors & it can seriously be rough on my skin. Anytime I need a little boost for my skin (especially my nose, it’s always drying out lol), I reach for this. I just apply a thin layer then head to bed. When I wake up, it’s like I got a new face; a softer, smoother, yummier smelling new face lol. [this pic is the first time I tried it. I just had a sample pack & fell in love]

5. In a New York Minute
Oh boy, this one is a must have for dull lackluster skin. Its like a full facial but without the gigantic price tag. I reach out to this whenever I feel like I need a total skin overhaul. It removes dead skin & deep cleans all your pores. It doesn’t have a strong scent but there is a faint astringent undertone, which is great for drying out pimples fyi.

All in all Posh has a mask for just about any skin type, which I love. They are also affordable compared to spa treatments & other comparable masks on the market.
[Every single one is under $22 & has at minimum 10 to 20 uses per container].
I have fallen in love, & I hope that maybe this little guide can help you find something that works for your skin ailments.

We’re all out here winging it; life, skin, our eyeliner… & I wish someone had shown all this to me years ago. If you have any questions, just ask. I’m posting links to each mask below. Hope it helps. 🙂

Links to Learn More
1. In The Clear
2. Stay Gold
3. Cackle Spackle
4. Apricots Overnight
5. In a New York Minute

Waiting for the butterflies..

A few weeks ago I was watching my 3 year old play in the front yard. She ran around, cooked some mud pies, and even had a tea party with Moe (our pit mix). All of a sudden she just stopped. She grabbed her chair, turned it towards the fields, & sat down. I watched and waited. 15 minutes passed & finally I just had to break the silence to ask why she had not moved or made a noise in so long. Her response…

“I’m just waiting on the butterflies”.

I couldn’t respond. My mind was instantly consumed with 100 thoughts. Her answer was so matter of fact. She just knew that butterflies were coming, even with none in sight. And she was being so patient. So calm in her faith that they would appear soon. I started applying this to my own life. How often do I just sit back & let myself just have faith that something beautiful is coming? Why am I always chasing after things instead of just having faith that good things will happen? Maybe she was teaching me something. Maybe this was a lesson in faith. So I sat with her & we waited. Then that tiny little yellow butterfly made his appearance. I almost cried. All she had was faith & God delivered. I’m not a very religious person, but as a Christian this moment moved me.
This was my reminder that even on my worst days all I need is faith. I just have to believe that good things are on the horizon. Maybe that’s half the battle. So for now I’m just let go of my fears of what tomorrow holds & just wait for the butterflies.

Where Do I Start?

I guess an introduction is in order. So here goes.

My name is Meghan Hamner! I am a mother to 2 little girls. I have been married for almost 5 years to my best friend. I love the color pink, Dr. Who, & energy drinks. I like to make lists & take notes, so look forward to lots of fun lists lol. I do product reviews as well.
As for my job, well I am a pampering diva extraordinaire. Although I am a direct sales consultant for Perfectly Posh, I am not your average consultant.
I’m a little girly, a little nerdy, & a bit of a gear head. I can show you how I balance running 2 businesses, my household, and still manage to find time to pamper myself daily. We are all busy with something, but we also deserve a little ME TIME. It’s more important than you think. I hope you will follow me on my pampering pursuit. We will have fun I promise.

Self care is a divine responsibility.

 

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