I’m a Mother Not a Mom & That’s Okay

These are my definitions of Mother & Mom.

Mother – Noun, A person who has given birth to, is raising, or has adopted a child.

Mom – Noun, A person who has dedicated their life to their children. This person is nurturing & caring. She makes salads in mason jars & actually completes all the things she pins on pinterest. (Also see; Perfect Parent, DIYer, Healthy, Organic, NonGMO, etc)

I am a mother. I have never been a mom. I, like many other women, was not born with the genetic disposition to be a mother. You can call me selfish or callus but I am just being real here. I love my children & they are well taken care of, but I am just not a mother.
I do not do mornings. I have little patience. I cringe when I touch sticky things(& my children are #ForeverSticky). I like long naps & periods of silence. I only craft if the mood strikes me & the moon is in a particular cycle. I do not cook 3 meals a day. I’ll cook one(2 on a great day). My children eat processed food that comes in cans or can be stored in my freezer. Yesterday they had, I kid you not, Vienna Sausages, crackers, & a Little Debbie brownie for lunch. They were happy & full. Oh, & we ate pizza for dinner. I listen to music with explicit lyrics(& my kids dance along). I watch anime, Dr. Who, Supernatural, & Pretty Little Liars with my children(& yes my daughter can sing the PLL theme song). I go out with my husband regularly, & my kids stay with a family member. My 4 year old can see my bottle of rum on top of the fridge & she calls it “bat beer”. I have pink hair, tattoos, & I swear as if my life depended on it. That’s just me, but guess what?

IT’S OKAY!

My parenting style is pretty free range, but my children are happy, healthy, & well adjusted. They view the world with wonder and awe just like any other child. They love me & I love them. We snuggle up every day & watch a few episodes of Digimon while painting each others nails & snacking on chips. We talk about everything. My children are hilarious. Talking to my 4 year old is like talking to a tiny little 16 year old(chock full of useless information & attitude fueled by an extensive vocabulary). I am not going to win any parenting awards, & I don’t want to. This world is crazy. It’s full of people who are different, foods that are bad for you, cursing, & general weirdness. My children are preparing to be a part of that world. I will not shelter them from reality. I will protect them from harm. I won’t let them watch horror movies before bedtime. I will teach them to love people, to embrace new ideas, & to accept other peoples choices. I will urge them to choose their own path & travel down it with wild abandon.

If you are a “mom”, I salute you! I am proud of you, but I do not want to be you. I am right where I want to be; sitting on my bed, drinking an energy drink, working, while my girls play dolls in the next room. I am a “mother”, & that is totally okay.

Leave me a comment & tell me how you feel.

How will I make it?

Have you ever asked yourself that question? Maybe you were struggling with a major life change, or maybe you were just trying to get through one more load of laundry. Personally I feel like I ask this question at least once a day.
There is a certain level of fear in my mind every time this thought pops up. A real true primal human fear. How will I make it? How will I survive? Then I remember…
I have survived all of my worst days so far. 
I am still here. I made it this far. I made it past all the bad decisions, all the hard choices, all the stress inducing moments. I came out on the other side of all those things. Was it easy? No. Was it worth it? I think so. The value of all that crap serves as a reminder that, yes, I will make it. These tough moments, these trials; however menial or mundane are only temporary. I have survived thus far. I will continue to survive.

5 Masks for Every Skintype

Okay, so personally I have been plagued with insane skin my entire life. Oily one month, then dry, followed by a storm of blackheads. Seriously my skin may be bipolar; I’m just saying. When I found the Perfectly Posh product line, I decided to give it a try. Why not? I had tried everything else, so what did I have to lose. Well I fell in love instantly. (I even ended up deciding to become a rep for the company!) It changed my skin. There are masks for everything & I could switch up easily depending on how my wacko skin was feeling at the time without switching up my entire skincare routine. I still use the same cleanser & moisturizer every day. It’s so easy. So I decided to share 5 of my favorite masks with you, & maybe you can find something to put some ease into your skin care battles.

1. In The Clear
This mask sends acne screaming for the hills. Peppermint and lemon oils combine with white tea leaf extract and kaolin clay to get deep into your pores & flush out the yuck. It smells so good, leaves a cool tingle, & is always an instant pick me up. I turn to this bad boy every time I have a break out or my blackheads show their ugly face.

2. Stay Gold
My poor face went through a dry spell recently & this little tub of heaven was a life saver. I personally think it smells a little odd but not in a bad way lol. It has honey & tumeric and relieves redness & dryness. It really is super hydrating, but my favorite thing it does is help correct my patchiness (which drives me nuts every time my skin get the least bit dry).

3. Cackle Spackle
OMG! I cannot say enough good things about this mask. I smells & feels like 5 Gum tastes. Seriously, this mask is all about detoxing. It has charcoal, spearmint, volcanic ash, & kaolin clay. My husband even approves of this one. I use this mask every Sunday to help detox my face after a long week of makeup, dirt, & daily yuckiness. It draws out all the impurities, cleanses, & tones. I just follow up with a little moisturizer & BOOM my skin is rocking & ready for the week ahead.

4. Apricots Overnight
This sweet thing is my go to after a day in the sun. It’s all about moisture. I spend alot of time outdoors & it can seriously be rough on my skin. Anytime I need a little boost for my skin (especially my nose, it’s always drying out lol), I reach for this. I just apply a thin layer then head to bed. When I wake up, it’s like I got a new face; a softer, smoother, yummier smelling new face lol. [this pic is the first time I tried it. I just had a sample pack & fell in love]

5. In a New York Minute
Oh boy, this one is a must have for dull lackluster skin. Its like a full facial but without the gigantic price tag. I reach out to this whenever I feel like I need a total skin overhaul. It removes dead skin & deep cleans all your pores. It doesn’t have a strong scent but there is a faint astringent undertone, which is great for drying out pimples fyi.

All in all Posh has a mask for just about any skin type, which I love. They are also affordable compared to spa treatments & other comparable masks on the market.
[Every single one is under $22 & has at minimum 10 to 20 uses per container].
I have fallen in love, & I hope that maybe this little guide can help you find something that works for your skin ailments.

We’re all out here winging it; life, skin, our eyeliner… & I wish someone had shown all this to me years ago. If you have any questions, just ask. I’m posting links to each mask below. Hope it helps. 🙂

Links to Learn More
1. In The Clear
2. Stay Gold
3. Cackle Spackle
4. Apricots Overnight
5. In a New York Minute

Why did I Color My Hair Pink?

The short answer. I wanted to. 

The long story. Well, keep reading.

Honestly it really all boils down to because I wanted to. Over the years I have cut, colored, & styled my hair in many outlandish ways. For the most part it was always well received by my peers. They would respond with the usual…
“That looks awesome”
“Love that [color/cut/style] on you”
… but then my peers changed. It wasn’t overnight & it wasn’t that I lost my old friends. It was simply that we all started to become wives & mothers. Slowly but surely I found that my outlandish locks were less & less socially acceptable. Now this didn’t stop me from going wild, but I will admit that it slowed me down. Two weeks ago I stepped outside the box yet again; shaved the side of my head & colored my remaining hair a vibrant hot pink. It felt AMAZING. I was instantly in love. The appreciative & supportive comments came as usual, but then came the new questions & comments…
“Why did you do that?”
“You sure are brave.”
“My husband would never let me do that.”
WHAT?! Yes, these new statements made me think. & not about myself but about other women. I don’t ask you why you got highlights. I don’t ask you why you chose that outfit. I don’t ask you why you are still wearing the same haircut from 5 years ago. So seriously why ask me that? It’s kinda rude. Why is this a woman’s first reaction to change? “Why did you do that?” Umm, because I wanted to.
Also, I am not brave. I am just unapologetic-ally myself. I do what works for me & what makes me feel good. Believe me its not about being brave. It’s about being me & doing something because I wanted to.
Now the husband thing… that’s a whole other post in itself, but the long and the short is honey if your man is that concerned with your hair then how concerned can he really be with your heart. If purple hair makes you happy & he can’t roll with that then roll without him. It’s your head. Do it because you want to.

Why is it that the climate changes as we become “adults”? I am a wife, a mother, & a business owner. I also have hot pink hair. My hair does not make me any lesser a version of any of those titles. If anything it makes me better than I was because I am happier & more confident. I am true to myself.

I am a grown ass woman & I do what I want.

Where Do I Start?

I guess an introduction is in order. So here goes.

My name is Meghan Hamner! I am a mother to 2 little girls. I have been married for almost 5 years to my best friend. I love the color pink, Dr. Who, & energy drinks. I like to make lists & take notes, so look forward to lots of fun lists lol. I do product reviews as well.
As for my job, well I am a pampering diva extraordinaire. Although I am a direct sales consultant for Perfectly Posh, I am not your average consultant.
I’m a little girly, a little nerdy, & a bit of a gear head. I can show you how I balance running 2 businesses, my household, and still manage to find time to pamper myself daily. We are all busy with something, but we also deserve a little ME TIME. It’s more important than you think. I hope you will follow me on my pampering pursuit. We will have fun I promise.

Self care is a divine responsibility.

 

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